The Ethics of Connection

a day workshop for facilitators and assistants in Sacred Sexuality work.

Saturday, 19th January, 2019. 11.00 - 5.30.

Led by Al Head, assisted by Rupert James Alison.

London.

Cost: £75. Concessions £40. Please get in touch if you want to come but can't afford this.

Contact: myfaerieking@btinternet.com for booking form and with any questions. www.movingenergy.me.uk


The day will be a broad exploration of the ethics and practicalities of how we connect with participants during and after our workshops, as well as how we connect with each other as facilitators/leaders and assistants. How do we ethically manage the connections that occur during workshops? How do we adjust our roles, for example if people attend our workshops who are friends/lovers/connections/clients? How do we work with other people's energy consensually during ritual and energy raising? How do we operate ethically within what are sometimes quite small networks of people? 

The workshop will be a held and facilitated space where participants will be supported to explore these issues not just intellectually but emotionally and energetically. We will develop our awareness of energy and how it operates and our ability to take charge of it. We will spend time exploring consent, both physical and energetic. We will share and experiment with different ways of communicating. We will practise our abilities to consciously merge and demerge (separating the energies) and to find 'where the energy is' and how to tell the differences between projection and connection. These exercises will be intended to generate shared and individual thoughts and understandings and there will be opportunities for focused sharing and for facilitated group discussions. 


Sex, Magic and the Culture of Consent

Saturday, 23rd Februrary, 2019. 10.30 - 5.00.

Day workshop in London. Led by Al Head.

Cost: £80. Concessions £45. £10 discount on total cost if also booking for 'Sex, Magic and the Power of Pleasure' the next day. Please get in touch if you want to come but can't afford this.

Contact: myfaerieking@btinternet.com for booking form and with any questions. www.movingenergy.me.uk

Consent is vital in all our interactions, whether social, electronic, sexual or magical. And yet most of us were not taught about consent as children. On the contrary most of us were taught that we did not have the right either to consent or to refuse consent. The structure of our lives was defined by adults, we were told what to wear and how to act and many of us were physically or sexually abused. In many ways, explicit or subtle, we were taught that we did not have control over our bodies. Something as simple as being told to 'kiss your aunt goodbye' told us that we did not have the right to set our own boundaries or make our own choices. At the same time, our ability to know what we truly wanted was often shut down and lost.

Unlearning these early lessons, claiming our own autonomy and learning how to respect that of others, can take a lifetime. Creating a culture of consent is something that will take the lifetimes of us all. But each step on the way makes things easier. This workshop is part of a journey for all of us where we can continue to learn what consent means. We cannot fully engage sexually or energetically with another, whether that other be human, deity, Fae, rock, river or tree, unless we consent on all levels. But how do we know if we truly consent? How do we reach the different levels of ourselves and find what they want to communicate to us? How do we allow ourselves to want, and to express our wants, while allowing the time and space for another to decide whether they consent to us? How do we make offers without strings attached to them and without pressure? How do we value ourselves and the other enough that we can ask questions without feeling that either of us will be diminished by the answer? How do we negotiate consent through the different power structures of society and relationship strands in our lives? In this workshop we will develop our awareness: of our bodies' wisdom, our energetic impulses, our thoughts, and our feelings. We will take the time to feel into what is true for us and practise communicating these truths with others. We will be gentle with ourselves and each other and allow ourselves to explore these delicate issues in a held space, without shame or blaming, knowing that we all have much to learn.


 Sex, Magic and the Power of Pleasure

Sunday, 24th Februrary, 2019. 10.30 - 5.00.

Day workshop in London. Led by Al Head.

Cost: £80. Concessions £45. £10 discount on total cost if also booking for 'Sex, Magic and the Culture of Consent' the previous day. Please get in touch if you want to come but can't afford this.

Contact: myfaerieking@btinternet.com for booking form and with any questions. www.movingenergy.me.uk


This workshop can be attended on its own or along with the workshop 'Sex, Magic and the Culture of Consent' the day before. To attend 'Sex, Magic and the Power of Pleasure' you need to have done some consent work, either by attending the day before or in another context.


In the classic Pagan text, 'The Charge of the Goddess', Doreen Valiente says: 'All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals'. Paganism has long seen the power of pleasure and this is partly what led to its repression by the patriarchal religions. In Britain Christianity kept the people under control through promoting sacrifice and a promise of Heaven in return for suffering on Earth. Many of us grew up with the 'protestant work ethic', that taught us that struggle and hard work were the only things that would make a difference to us and to the world. But what if this was a lie? What if the thing that will make a difference is not struggle but pleasure?! How would this contradict all we have been brought up to believe and what would it mean for our lives and for the earth? How would our work for the transformation of ourselves and the protection of the planet be changed and renewed?


Magically, pleasure has a power and a force that denying ourselves can never match. Sex magic teaches us how to use pleasure to build energy for intention, for journeying and to change our consciousness. In this workshop we will experience physical and energetic pleasure and the exquisite ecstasy of energy sex. Within our individual boundaries and consent, we will develop our awareness of the pleasure and power of sharing energy with another, and with a group. And we will explore how we can use the building of that pleasure in ritual, action and healing.